Ever have one of those days where you can’t seem to get ahead? Or maybe a whole week that feels that way? A month or even a year? I am in what feels
like months of that feeling. Sometimes even when we try our best to make our plans and plan out our goals, we are still left feeling like we are spinning our wheels and getting no where. And that feeling is damn defeating.
For me it turns into a circle: I get in the rut, trying something to get out of it, don’t make progress quick enough, give up, and then start all over again. After going through this circle I find myself in the trap of the automatic shutdown. I don’t plan, I don’t think ahead, I just take whatever life is throwing at my and try to keep up the best I can. However that just leads to the overwhelming feelings.
So today I wanted to share with you a diagram that helps me when I am feeling this way.
Figuring Out What To Focus On
I love this diagram. I stumbled upon one day on Pinterest and immediately loved it. I have since come across it many times and always see different versions of it, so I made my own.
It reminds me that I shouldn’t be focusing on things I can’t control. Which is so much easier to say then it is to do, when you are a constant overthinker.
It is so simple in concept. We spend a lot of time thinking about things we care about but can’t control and there are many things we can control but don’t really care about. Finding that in between sweet spot is where we can really make changes.
I am a list-er. I love making lists. Most of the time when I am feeling my wheels spin, it is because I have too much on my mind and can’t get it out enough to get organized. When this happens if I can get ahead of my automatic shut down trap and write down everything in my mind, I have a better chance of getting out of the circle.
I start by writing down everything in my mind that needs to be done or is consuming my thoughts. I think draw this diagram and start filling in where they fit. This has helped me to find what needs the most focus. Of course the things that are out of my control still play on my mind, but I then take those and see if there is a way that I can change something about them to make me have some control or ability to change.
What do you do when you feel like you are loosing focus? Do you make a to-do list and prioritize, or do you have another method that helps you get back on track?I would love to hear in the comments below.